10 Self Care Activities For Mothers

As a mom to three plus, life gets busy. Having a newborn, a preschooler, a first grader and 2 stepdaughters (one of whom is bringing her kids over to my house!), all while trying to be a good wife, it gets sort of hard to do self-care activities. My feet get rough, my nails get raggedy, my hair gets neglected at times, and forget about makeup every day ( I wish!) But I must make time for myself, here and there. If I don’t, I will burn out and, feel devalued and get anxious or depressed.

Mental health as a mother is important, as well as physical and emotional health. If you, the caretaker of your kids and your home, are not taking care of yourself, who else is going to? Some people can hire a personal trainer, a dietician/nutritionist, go to spas, pedicurists, and hairdressers on a regular basis, but personally, I don’t have it like that. And I’m sure many reading this don’t either.

Being so busy taking care of the kids, the home and wifely duties, I have to carve out time to take extra care of myself. Here, I list 10 self-care activities for mothers who have their hands in several different pots but are unsure of how to take steps to care for themselves to prevent burnout, mental health issues, and exhaustion.

Do a pedicure. I am not going to say do a pedicure every week, or once a month. I don’t know how much time you have. But you know when it’s time if your toenails are getting long and your heels are getting rough. Ideally, once a week is a good schedule to soak your feet, scrub them, cut your nails and slather on lotion. But even if you just make a point of washing your feet with a good scrub once every couple of days before bed and slathering on lotion, then sleeping in socks, that would be very helpful. Your feet would thank you, and I’m sure you’d feel good, knowing that you did something to take care of yourself. I love this Freeman Peppermint and Plum Foot scrub. It is a great option for a tight budget and is great quality for the price.

Read for 20 minutes per day

Reading self-help books has helped me build my confidence and learn what the keys are to building a healthy home, as well as what the habits of successful people are. I am an avid reader, so I not only read self- help, but I read fiction. Sometimes I read more than 20 minutes per day. I will sneak in time! But if you can only get 20 minutes, that is good too. Reading makes you more intelligent, teaches you new skills and boosts your confidence. A good work of fiction can also relax your mind and relieve stress! I love picking up a physical book, turning the pages and reading cover to cover. But I also have fell in love with my Nook Color. It’s a great way to read in the dark. It is also convenient because it’s a library in your hand! Instead of holding one book, you’re holding many. My son also loves to play chess and other games on it.

Get some fresh air

Open your door and go outside! I tend to coop myself up. So it’s a change of scenery when I go outside. Even if I just sit on my porch and read or watch the world, it helps out. It’s best to get moving and take a walk, but the porch does its job of getting sun and fresh air. With cold weather coming, it’s not going to be feasible to sit outside for a long time or take a walk, so I am getting the most of the warm days now; though they are getting few and far between!

Deep condition your hair

Another pampering self-care activity to indulge in is to deep condition your hair. It’s nice to just take a regular conditioner and soup it up with olive oil, castor oil, and an essential. Plop it in and sit with a plastic bag for an hour before washing it out. But sometimes, I will get a nice ready-made deep conditioner, put it in my hair and cover it with a plastic bag and scarf, then leave it in overnight. All I have to do is just wash it out in the shower in the morning. One of my favorite deep conditioners is the Silk Elements Cholesterol Deep Conditioner.

Call a good friend or close relative

Taking a few minutes to talk to someone close and dear to you can take your mind off of things that are going on in your life and help you sort stuff out. Don’t call your friend and complain. Call them and let them know what’s going on in your life and in your head. Ask them how they are doing. It’s nice to have someone to confide in, who is concerned about how you are doing.

Go window shopping

Just to walk through one of your favorite stores and look at the new items they have for sale can be a stress reliever. You don’t have to buy anything. Or if you do have a little bit of money, buy something small that you can get a kick out of. Or even something you’d never think to buy before that may really help you out! If you can’t make it out of the house, or just don’t have the time, open your computer and go window shopping on Amazon. Add some things to your cart that you may want to purchase later… And if you haven’t tried Amazon Prime, it’s awesome! You get free shipping on most items, and whatever you order will get to you in 2 days, sometimes overnight. Here are other reasons Why I Love Amazon Prime.

Write in a gratitude journal

Writing can also be a stress reliever. But specifically sitting down and writing out everything you are grateful for can impact you more than regular journal writing. Thinking about what you are grateful for, writing each item, and sitting with your gratitude is good for your health! Practicing being thankful can bring such joy into your life.

Get creative

Taking time out to create is healthy. Even if you don’t identify as a creative person, you can hone creative skills, Before I started my YouTube channel, I didn’t think I was creative. Before I started blogging, I didn’t think I was creative! There are even adult coloring books now that help you get creative. You don’t even need the skills to draw, just stay in the lines! Here’s a great option for an adult coloring book:

Crossword, word find or Sudoku

Whichever you prefer is best! All three of these exercises are great for mental focus as well as to help relax you. Soduku is probably the most difficult, so if you are looking to really sharpen your brain, you may want to pick that. Out f crossword puzzles, word finds and Sodoku, I probably like word finds the best. Here’s a good option:

Have fun with your kids

This is probably the last thing you’d think would be a on a self-care activities for moms list, but it works! I didn’t say spend time with them I said, I am actually suggesting that you let loose and have fun with them! When you find that you are yelling at them or that there is just too much structure, go do something fun with them. Some suggestions: Go to a book store with them

Watch a family movie and eat popcorn with them

Play a board game or do a puzzle with them

Get messy and paint with them

Put pajamas on and do one or all of these activities!

                                                              What ideas can you come up with?




  1. Holly Bird

    Great tips and advice! As Mothers we must always take care of ourselves so we can be the best we can b for our children!

    • Amy Irvin

      yes! Thanks foe reading

  2. Sue

    As moms, I think we get caught up in making sure everyone else is taken care and we forget to take care of ourselves. This is a great list! Thank you for sharing.

    • Amy Irvin


  3. Lee Anne

    All great ideas! I especially love the fresh air 🙂

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for reading!

  4. Brianna

    These are all such great suggestions. Thank you for this post!

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for your comment

  5. Tricia Snow

    These are great tips! Self care is so important!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yes! Thanks

  6. Jill DeMasi

    Great suggestions to remember especially for moms who don’t take any time for themselves.

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for commenting

  7. Natalie

    Window shopping is my go to get away to relax. But going to look into those coloring books – those look like very relaxing to get my creative juices flowing again!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yeah, coloring is not just for kids!

  8. Karen

    Great advice. As moms, we always put everyone else before ourselves. I love to walk outside. It is my go-to for relaxation.

    • Amy Irvin

      Thank you. I could do walks more.

  9. Lisa Manderino

    Life can get busy. It is important to take a step back and do something for mom!

    • Amy Irvin


  10. Karla Petersen

    All good! Sudoku! One of my favorites

    • Amy Irvin

      I haven’t done Sudoku in years

  11. Kim

    Self care is so important. We forget ourselves so often. Thanks for some great ideas.

    • Amy Irvin

      You’re welcome

  12. Ellen Mika Zelasko

    These are some really great, really original ideas for self care. Let’s face it, we’ve all seen the lists that include spa days etc. Not everyone can make it to a spa for a day, but most of us can manage any one of these ideas. Very creative post; love it.

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks so much. I am glad this is useful to you

  13. Jordan

    These are great ideas for all of us, even those who aren’t moms. Thank you for the reminder to take some time for myself and do something I enjoy!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yes! Thanks for commenting

  14. Kendra

    Much needed. I think I’ll focus on getting some much needed reading time in. I miss that.

    • Amy Irvin

      Take care of yourself!

  15. Tracy

    What a great list! I used to love coloring pages when I was a kid, I’ll have to try it again now that I am a mom.

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for commenting

  16. judean

    Crosswords are awesome – I do those from time to time. I love coloring books! Window shopping not so much. I am not one for looking at things that I can’t afford or just looking because then I would want to buy them. My husband window-shops for really expensive things… it’s quite frustrating for me 🙂

    • Amy Irvin

      I know some people like window shopping. Me, not so much anymore. I’d rather go shopping when I can afford to but. BUT. I will go on Amazon and save things to my cart that I intend to get later

  17. Michelle

    I used to color in the adult coloring books – great for anxiety!

    • Amy Irvin

      I’ve done it a little too

  18. Cindy

    Self care is so important! These are all wonderful ways to have some me time.

    • Amy Irvin


  19. Lisa

    I’ve really gotten into reading lately! I need to start deep conditioning my hair, asap!

    • Amy Irvin

      Deep conditioning and facials are great for me! Thanks for stopping by

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