Month: October 2021

How To Get Good Rest At Night

Too many of us don’t get good rest at night. Living a healthy lifestyle can help. There are some habits that can set you up for getting a good night’s sleep. A lot of them, I will talk about inn this post. If you are having a hard time getting good sleep at night, read on! And if you know someone who has this problem, please share!

Establish a good night time routine.

If you have a healthy routine set up, doing the same thing every night, your body will be prepared well to go to sleep. Getting your body ready to go to sleep is optimal if you are having problems getting the sleep you need at night. A good example of a night time routine is: Do your skin care routine. (I.E., wash and moisturize your face), put on cozy pajamas, drink tea, pray or meditate on the Word of God, go to bed. Do whatever is going to calm you and your body down.

Go to bed and get up the same time every day.

If you are going through a stressful season and that is messing up your sleep, try your best to keep a schedule of getting up at the same time and having the same bed time at night. Stress and disorder can mess up your biological clock, so being intentional about this can really help.


Having an exercise routine, getting around 30 to 40 minutes of exercise 3 to 5 times per week is a healthy way to live, and will set you up for restful nights.

Stay away from electronics an hour before bed.

Being on electronics before bed can make your body thin it’s daytime. So, staying out of the screen at least an hour before bed is best. Work, social media and videos can wait ’til morning!

Read at night.

Some people like to read, some don’t. If you are an avid reader, this will be easy for you. But even if you’re not, it is a good thing to incorporate into a healthy night time routine and you will be glad you did!

Take supplements.

I have gone through periods of insomnia and have tried, like everything. At one point, I got desperate and resorted to taking a sleep supplement. I don’t recommend this if you have underlying health problems. If you are an average, healthy person, it can’t hurt to try a sleep supplement. One that I tried that helped me out is from Hollis Nutrition. It’s called Sleep Fairy, and is a natural sleep aid. I got it from Amazon, but at the time I am writing this post, it is unavailable there. It helped me out though, so if I ever needed it again, I’d go look it up elsewhere.

See a doctor.

If you’ve tried most of these things already and are still having problems, I suggest going to see a doctor. there could be underlying health conditions keeping you from sleeping well at night. Some people even sleep through the night and aren’t getting restful sleep, then are tired during the day. So don’t hesitate to go see your general practitioner if you need to.

Sleep is an important part of being healthy and if you aren’t getting proper rest, it will show up in other areas of your life. I know that having a job that has you on different shifts is one reason why a lot of people don’t get good rest. Also, having a newborn, you are most likely not going to be getting good sleep. Make the proper adjustments where need be. If it’s just a season of your life you’re going through, make the best of it. Take care!


31 Ways To Love Yourself

I am still learning to love myself. I think that it can be learned more and more as you grow older. If you are stuck in any unhealthy habits or relationships, take this list and adopt some of these things. Make them your own!

  1. Keep up with your hygiene
  2. Learn a new skill
  3. Quit smoking
  4. Learn how to cook a new, healthy dish
  5. Take a multivitamin regularly
  6. Speak up for yourself when someone oversteps your boundaries
  7. Learn to pray and spend time in the Bible
  8. Keep your home clean
  9. Start a journal
  10. Get some exercise
  11. Buy some essential oils and learn about them
  12. Keep your nails done
  13. Invest in luxe skin care
  14. Read daily
  15. Be grateful (write what your are grateful for in a journal or say it in the mirror)
  16. Wear clothes that compliment you
  17. Quit drinking soda
  18. Drink enough water daily
  19. Spend time around people who care about you
  20. Pick friends who aren’t toxic
  21. Do brain exercises (Sudoku, word search, word find, puzzles, etc.)
  22. Splurge on something you want every once in a while
  23. Keep your finances in order
  24. Do a pedicure often (at a salon or DIY)
  25. Put lotion on
  26. Affirm positive statement out loud to yourself in the mirror
  27. End a toxic relationship
  28. Get enough sleep
  29. Learn about boundaries and establish healthy ones
  30. Join a class, a Bible study or support group
  31. Do the work and heal

How To Keep Yourself Company

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So many people have a problem with loneliness. Some, more than others. Actually, I think everyone experiences loneliness at some point in their life. So, how do you learn to keep yourself company? I am not perfect at it. But there are some things I have learned that have helped me on days that I just feel alone or unsure of myself.

The main thing that helps me when I feel lonely or unsure of myself, my place in life, or the future in general, is my relationship with Jesus. Knowing Him is knowing that my future is certain, I am never alone and I am loved. So when I feel “unlike myself”, I spend time with the Lord. Sometimes I put worship music or an instrumental on and sometimes I like it quiet. Either I will open a Bible based devotional or my Bible itself (depending on my mood and how much time I have). A great devotional that I have been using the past few months is New Morning Mercies by Paul David Tripp.

When I am done spending time in the Word and prayer, sometimes I will go clean something. If I have laundry to fold, I will go tackle that first. And when do I not have laundry to fold? (LOL) I have learned to actually like doing laundry. Though sometimes I am in a better mood for it than others. I’m always switching up my laundry detergent, but two I always go back to are Tide Pods and the Gain powder detergent.

My most comfortable way to fold laundry is on my living room floor, watching a show or listening to a podcast. I just dump all of the laundry on the floor and compile piles all around me. This helps me get something accomplished and at the same time, pass the time.

Another thing I do when I feel lonely is to watch YouTube videos. I try not to resort to this first, but sometimes I just catch up on some of the lifestyle vloggers  I like to watch. Some of my favorites are ItsJudysLife, Chloe J. Roy, Milena Ciciotti, and Holistic Habits.

Now, you know I’m a blogger, so when I get the time to write, I will. I need to write a lot more than I do currently! But writing helps me to be productive, and also get my mind off of feelings of loneliness and being unsure of myself. If you haven’t read a lot of my posts, go look back and see some of my older posts! Having something you do as a hobby or work that you enjoy can always be a way to keep yourself company.

Now,  rarely am I ever without my kids. If my youngest (2 years old) is taking a nap, I have options as to what I can get done lol. If he’s up, I can spend time with him, and my two older kids. Sometimes I will watch a movie with them, or I will go through flash cards with my youngest. Or I will draw with them. Once in a while, I will make cookies and have one of them help.

Before this starts to sound like a write up of what to do when you’re bored, I will just say, rarely do I ever get the privilege of being bored. There is always something to do.

To keep yourself company, find out what you like to do an what you need to do. It’s that simple for me. I am more of the loner type, so as long as I have my kids and my husband, I am fine. I think it is important to learn how to enjoy being alone. If you are always depending on others to keep you company, you will get lonely often.

It is a beautiful thing to be comfortable being by yourself. Or just with your family. You shouldn’t need others to make you feel good. Now, I know that different people have different personalities but behaviors and tendencies can be learned.

What are some ways you keep yourself company?



Diary Entry 10/17/21

The Lord is good. I think sometimes when I pray, I subconsciously measure up my sins to how good God is. But thank God for the blood of His son Jesus! If the blood isn’t enough to cleanse my sin, then we’re all in trouble!

Sometimes I think, “Is it really worth it to keep up with my blog?” But I immediately tell myself, “Yes!” If I’m doing everything I need to, it’s full-time work. But I love my blog and I believe it is impactful for the Kingdom. I am a writer, at heart. I thank the Lord for giving me this gift.

At times, when I pray for my loved ones in tough situations (including those who are unsaved), I feel helpless, But I am always reminded that I was them once. The Lord worked a miracle in my life, and if I was lost and could be found, then they are not hopeless! I was prayed on for many years before I repented of my sin and accepted Jesus as Lord and God. Praise Him! Just thinking of my testimony right now gets me fired up because I came from a strong religious background. I was very legalistic and didn’t even believe that Jesus is God! I am a walking miracle. We should never give up on our unsaved loved ones. We were prayed out of the darkness and they can be too.

How do we overcome something that is such a stronghold that it’s somehow a part of us? I just want to wake up one day and it’s easy to get out of bed. I don’t want to struggle with being a late riser anymore. I don’t know if it’s part of my bipolar disorder or it’s just laziness. But I dread getting up early.

Speaking of bipolar disorder, I have given up on being supernaturally healed. My husband brings it up now and then. I don’t like him bringing it up. I have sought deliverance about 4 times now, and always ended up back on my meds. Trying to get off of them has just caused trouble in my marriage. At this point, I am just so grateful that my medicine keeps me stable and I have easy access to it. Now, the thought has crossed my mind that if I were healed, it would be a great testimony for the Lord.

Now, we all go through struggles in life. Everyone. No one is exempt from hard times. But I believe in not giving up. I believe in moving forward in Christ. There is too much at stake not to keep moving forward. My children, my marriage, my own mental health. My home, my salvation, the salvation of those around me. I will never give up!



Patience In Marriage

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the ability to wait for a long time without becoming annoyed or upset
I don’t have the patience to wait in line for hours just to buy a ticket.
Investors need to have patience. The economy will improve soon.
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2: the ability to remain calm and not become annoyed when dealing with problems or with difficult people
She treated her students with great patience and humor.
I don’t have (much) patience for that kind of behavior. = I have little/no patience for that kind of behavior. [=I am not willing to accept that kind of behavior]
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3: the ability to give attention to something for a long time without becoming bored or losing interest
I don’t have the patience to do crossword puzzles. – From the Merriam Webster website.

It’s been a running joke in the Christian community to be careful when praying for patience because the Lord will send you someone or something to test your patience. Patience does often come when going through a difficult situation. You learn to wait without getting upset.

Marriage is the joining together of two lives. Getting to know another person from the inside out and dedicating your whole life to them is no small commitment. Learning to accept that person despite whatever flaw they have or whatever life may bring into your life together is the biggest commitment there is, besides committing one’s life to the Lord.

In getting to know your spouse, there are a lot of flaws you will discover and patience is key to “dealing with” this person for the rest of your life. Patience and learning to love despite the fact that he doesn’t pick his clothes up off the floor or doesn’t put a fresh roll of toilet paper on after it’s finished.

I love my husband. But I have a lot of pet peeves, LOL. There is a saying I don’t like, though. I don’t like it when wives refer to their husbands as an extra child in the house. I think it’s disrespectful. He is your husband and he has to deal with your flaws as well. You should cherish him!

Well, I do want to talk about different ways to learn how to be patient with your spouse.

Patience in cleaning up his messes.

Face it, living in close quarters with anyone, you will be cleaning up your share of messes after them. Some people are more tidy than others, though. If your husband isn’t the nestest person, I don’t think it’s wrong to ask him to pick up after himself more. But please don’t get angry with him if he continues to leave messes. It’s okay to remind him, but don’t nag him about it. This may just cause an argument. I mean, it’s not the worst thing in the world to pick up a pair of dirty socks every now and then or clean a few extra dishes. I was told a true story of a family member whose loved one died and after the funeral, she said she’d do anything to smell his dirty socks in the corner again. An extra small mess here and there isn’t a big deal compared to the joy of having your spouse in your life to love and cherish.

Patience with his finances.

Okay, so fiinancial situations differ from one house to another. Your spouse may be working full time and overtime, still barely making ends meet. Or he may be bringing home big money. Or somewhere in between. If you are both working, good. Two incomes always take some of the burden off your spouse. Whether your the only one working, you’re both working or you stay at home and take care of the kids and /or the house, make peace with your spouse financially. I’m not saying you need to share a bank account. I am not saying you need to account for every purchase to him. But I do believe that couples shouldn’t argue over money. I mean, I’m not going to say never. We all have flaws and needs and in any relationship there is going to be an argument here and there about something. But don’t make money an idoll in your house. Don’t value a paycheck or the bills being paid over the well being of your loved one.

Patience with his sexual desires.

You may want it more than him. He may want it more than you. Maybe you just had a baby and y’all can’t for 6 weeks. Maybe he just had an opertion and can’t for a certain amount of time. Maybe the kids have a good habit of “getting in the way. Whatever the case is with your sex drives, your financal situation or the availability of date nights, make sex a priority. It can get tough as the seasons of life go by. But you need to care about yout spouse’s needs. If he wants it more than you, or visa versa, try sitting down togetherand coming to an agreement that you will have sex on certain days. I don’t think it’s wrong to schedule it! If it seems wrong to you, maybe try somethng else, but make sure you’re not neglecting your marriage bed.

Patience with his spiritual life.

Everybody has their own measure of faith. Your relationship with the Lord is different than The Lord’s relationship with your spouse. But y’all can pray togethet and do Bible study together. If he won’t, pray about it. Maybe he feels like praying with you is baring his soul in front of you and isn’t ready to do that. Maybe you two have different schedules that make it hard to fit prayer and Bible reading together in. But however it has to happen, please at least text verses or prayers to your spouse ’til you can get him on board. All the while, give the burden of your spouse’s spiritual life to the Lord. Grow close to Jesus. Pray your heart out for him. I believe if you show your faithfulness to the Lord in front of your souse and are patient with him, you will get better results than if you nag at him to read his Bible or stop spending time on his hobby to spend more time with the Lord. Be supportive of him and NEVER stop liftinh up in prayer before the Lord.

Patience with his choice of entertainment.

Now, your spouse can have some harmful choices of entertainment or he can maybe just choose a form of entertainment that you don’t like. If it’s harmful (such as porn, strip clubs or horror movies), then confront him and keep it in prayer. Maybe suggest therapy to him or get another couple you both know and respect in on the problem to discuss it. Don’t be afraid to let him know that his harmful entertainment choice offends you or is harming your marriage. If it is a form of entertainmet you just don’t undertand, let him have his time everry so often with whatever it is. Maybe even learn more about it! That could grow your bond with each other. Whatever the case may be, keep your husband’s choice of entertainment in prayer before the Lord. He will benefit from you keeping him covered, and so will your marriage.

I am reminded of the movie War Room. This movie saved my marriage when we were going though rough times. I watched it and immediately began to build a battle plan of prayer, submission and trusting the Lord with my family’s lives. If you haven’t seen it, please go watch it! It’s one of the first Christian movies I’d recommend to someone who’s looking for a good one. Here is the movie, available on Amazon:

There is also a War Room Bible study book, available on Amazon.

Another movie that was really impactful was Fireproof. I also highly recommend you watch that and glean from it. There is also a book to go with it.

The movie:

The book, The Love Dare:

Wherever you are at in your journey of marriage, I pray blessings over you, your spouse, your family and your house. In the name of Jesus!




Anticipating The Rapture Of The Bride Of Christ

Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope.  For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.  According to the Lord’s word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep.  For the Lord, himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first.  After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage one another with these words. – 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18

This passage is one that gives me great hope. If this is not the first post you’ve read on my blog, you know that I am a Christian; That I love the Lord Jesus Christ. A Christian’s hope is based on the resurrection of Jesus and the promise that when we die, or if the Rapture happens first, we will be with Him.

A new believer should base his or her life on preparation to meet Jesus. This world is not our home as Children of God, and we shouldn’t get so comfortable that we want to stay here. I don’t think it’s wrong to enjoy life. The Lord Jesus died so that w can live an abundant life and glorify Him, pointing others to Salvation. It is not wrong to want nice things but I believe there is a fine line between being rich and so comfortable you want to stay here and being prosperous, thus bringing glory to the Lord. The Bible says, What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? (Mark 8:36) and For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. (1 Timothy 6:10)

I don’t want to get deep into an, “Is it wrong to be rich?” monologue, I just want to stress that this world is not our home and we should be storing up treasures in Heaven, not here on this earth. (See Matthew 6:19-20 and Hebrews 13:14). Being truly dedicated to Christ, we should be doing good works, serving others, to the best of our ability, as the lord empowers us.

Today, looking at the state of the World, we can see that the Lord is soon to return. He said we would know the signs that His coming is near. Besides the news and the happenings of this world, there is a servant of the Lord here on earth, preparing the way for the coming of Jesus and the latter glory is raining! This man is John The Baptist-like, in that He is the forerunner for the Messiah. The Bible speaks of him in Malachi 4:5-6 (“See, I will send the prophet Elijah to you before that great and dreadful day of the Lord comes. He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents; or else I will come and strike the land with total destruction.”) and Revelation 11 (A passage speaking of the Two Witnesses of the Tribulation).

This prophet is Dr. David Owuor. He is based in Kenya and has been ministering for over twenty years. Many, many documented miracles have come forth through his ministry and many lukewarm Christians’ hearts have been set ablaze from the fruit of his ministry. There is way too much to this mintry to document here. This is not the main focus of this post, but if you are reading this, it is vital that you check this ministry of Repentance and Holiness out. Please go look him up on Youtube. Some of the main channels that have his videos up are Repent and Prepare The Way. Time Is Ove Jesus Is Coming Sooner, Imminent Rapture Repent, Salvation Prayers, and Oil and Wine Ministry. His websites are  and 

Really, I just want to please the Lord. I want to live a holy life, I want to raise my children according to the Word of God, I want to be a good wife, submitting to my husband as the Word says, and doing good to others, living so I look like Jesus, spiritually. I believe I do, but I also believe there is room for improvement. I fight with fleshly desires so much. My body does not want to serve Christ. But I must not submit to the flesh. (See Romans 7:15-20).

Daily, I look forward to the coming of the Messiah, as I pray for others to make it in with me. If I only had hope in this life, I’d be very pitiable. (See 1 Corinthians 15:19). I have young children and I could be looking forward to seeing them grow and finish high school, go to college, get married, start a career and have children. You know, the American dream. We all want that for our children. But what I want more than anything for them, is to love Jesus and make it to Heaven. I teach them the Word and to live a life of prayer.

There is too much at stake to focus on the things of this world more than eternity. In all reality, by the life that we live, each of us is choosing Heaven or Hell. Jesus or Satan. May sound harsh if you have not read a Bible in a while, but it’s true whether you choose to believe it or not. If we repent of our sins and live to obey the Lord in holiness, we will live with Him forever. On the other hand, If we don’t repent and turn away from sin and believe in the cross and the blood of Jesus, we will live in hell forever, outside of the presence of our creator.

The fact that Jesus is coming soon is a good thing! You can choose Him today and have the same hope that I have. This earth is not going to improve. The world as we know it will pass away and we will live eternally with whoever we lived in allegiance to here on earth. The Good news is that Jesus died in your place so that you don’t have to take everlasting punishment for your sin!

In heaven, we will live in joy, peace, and love that no one has ever experienced here on earth. “However, as it is written:
“What no eye has seen,
what no ear has heard,
and what no human mind has conceived,
the things God has prepared for those who love him.” – 1 Corinthians 2:9

I want to find out what those things are that the Lord has prepared for me. I want to see Jesus’ face in reality. I look forward to my hope being realized and living in eternal perfection, in service to the King of Kings.

If Jesus returned for His Bride today, would you be raptured?

Pray with me,

Mighty Lord Jesus, I come before you today. I know I have lived my life without you. I repent of all sin right now. I want to know more about you. I choose to live my life for you right now. I submit to the ministry of the blood and the cross right now. Teach me to live a life of holiness and righteousness, I turn away from sin and choose you today. Please lead me into the Kingdom of Heaven. In the name of Jesus, I am born again! Amen


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