5 Ways To Get Your Joy Back

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Difficult situations in life can deplete us of joy, thus draining us of the strength we need to live. If you’ve lived much of life, it’s likely that you’ve been through something or a number of things that caused you to question. “Why?”

As children, the most simple things can bring us joy. A book read to us by an enthusiastic parent, teacher, or librarian. A toy gifted to you on your birthday that you hold close for the next few years. A snowman made with your siblings on the first snowfall of Winter. The simplest things fill a child with joy.

As we age, we take on responsibilities that sap us of the joy of the simple things. We learn lessons that make life real, and hard. We grow into an understanding that has us realizing that we have to take care of ourselves. Life can be hard!

We as humans have resiliency. We’ve all got the ability to recover from any broken situation. We have our own will to live, we’ve got physical resources around us to draw purpose from, we’ve got a community to draw strength from.

No matter who you are and what your background is, I’m pretty sure you’ve got someone praying for you. It may even be someone who doesn’t know you.

I want to go back to the fact that you have your own will to live. Each of us has inside of us, the will to live and survive whatever situation we’re in. I want to give you some help with that. Maybe you haven’t been taught how to take care of yourself first, or you’re so confused or distraught that you don’t even know where to start. Take baby steps. Create habits that will last the length of your life and help you to get your joy back now.


Create a quiet time.

A quiet time is a time out from daily routine. Time to spend with yourself, reflect, and do something that will connect you with your creator. Some get up early to have quiet time, some stay up late, some carve out time in the middle of the day. Whatever works for you is best. Take this time to plan your schedule, pray, write, read your Bible. The Lord will guide you in this and speak to you as you seek His face. Intimacy with the Lord is created in quiet time. Clarity of mind is created in quiet time.

Here are a couple of devotionals that can help you create intimacy with the Lord and give you direction during your quiet time:


Listen to music. And worship!

Sometimes we focus too much on ourselves. When you go through things, it’s hard not to think about what’s happening around us and some have the tendency to internalize pain or stress. Taking the focus off yourself and focusing on the One who has everything in control will relieve stress and bring joy back into your heart. Choose some good Christian worship music and sing the lyrics in your car. Or at your desk. Or in the bath! Or even gather your kids and dance and sing songs to the Lord in the living room! Praise the Lord for who He is and for how good He is. It’s nice to have headphones when you want to worship in private, or don’t want to disturb someone else.

Here are a couple of good options for headphones:

Keep a journal.

This can also be a part of your quiet time. Or it can be something that you do right before bed, at lunchtime at work, or whenever is best for you. It’s not necessary to write in a journal every day. You can make a point of doing it every few days, once per week, or even just once per month. Write any thoughts or feelings. Write out prayers and Bible verses. Write poetry. Or write out what you’re grateful for. Keeping a journal is great for reflection, dumping negative thoughts, or just for expressing yourself. It’s also great for writing prayers if you’d rather not pray out loud at times.

Here are a couple of great choices for journals:


Develop a talent.

Some of us know what we’re good at all of our life. You may be a singer, a writer, a track star. a musician, a basketballer or a painter. Sometimes we don’t develop a talent ’til later in life when we try something new. If you are not sure what you’re good at, take a class or buy some materials that will help you develop a talent you want to develop. If you want to paint or draw, go to the arts and crafts section at a store, pick out some supplies, and experiment. Do it a lot! The more you draw, or play your instrument, or dance; whatever skill or talent you choose, the better you will get and the more joy you will receive from that outlet.

Do something helpful for someone in need.

There’s always someone who needs attention and love or help and isn’t getting it. This is also about getting the attention off of yourself. Helping someone in need will bring joy to your heart because we were created for community, and we all need love. Knowing that you did something for someone else who can’t repay you, or maybe someone who just didn’t know how to ask will make you feel better about your own life.

These are just five simple, but vital ways to get joy back into your heart. Joy doesn’t;t have to be external. True, lasting joy comes from a relationship with Jesus Christ. No matter what goes o in your life, having the Lod by your side through it all will sustain you. Also, healthy habits based on Biblical principles can create stability. If you have any habits that have kept joy in your heart through hard times, let me know in the comments!







  1. Melanie

    Great post! Time alone with the Lord on a regular and consistent basis is definitely what gives me joy and sustains it. I also like to engage with Him throughout the day through singing and prayer. In His presence is the fullness of joy!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yes! Singing always helps!

  2. Lynn Mejia

    Starting a new hobby helps me find joy in my life! I’m a passionate person and it makes me so happy when I find something that clicks. Great post!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yeah, hobbies can give us purpose!

  3. Holly

    Beautifully written! Spending quiet time a reconnecting wit our Heavenly Father can bring joy to all of us!!

    • Amy Irvin

      Hi Holly, thanks for reading and commenting

  4. Laura

    Thanks for the tips. Finding joy in every day things is such a blessing.

    • Amy Irvin

      You’re welcome

  5. lisa manderino

    These are great way to bring joy into your life!

    • Amy Irvin


  6. Tricia Snow

    What great tips! Joy is something you can maintain with the right attitude and skills in your tool box.

    • Amy Irvin


  7. Cynthia

    These are such great suggestions! I especially like the think of others!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yeah, sometimes we’ve got to stop thinking of me, me, me

  8. Sabrina DeWalt

    One of the beauties of simplifying our lives is that we are better able to appreciate the simple joys in life.

    • Amy Irvin

      Yeah, we don’t need a whole bunch of ‘stuff’ to be happy

  9. Keirsten

    Music always helps to bring me joy & get me out of a funk. <3

    • Amy Irvin

      Thank you, Keirsten!

  10. Debbie

    True! Sometimes adult responsibilities do sap our joy in small things! Haha I guess we just focus on overall joy!

    • Amy Irvin

      Oh, I know!

  11. Melissa | It's a Joyous Journey

    Thank you for these reminders! It’s easy to be consumed with the stress of life and find ourselves lacking joy. We must make time for the One who is the source of real joy!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yes, the more we focus on Jesus, the less we see problems

  12. Suz @ TravelsWithSuz.com

    Reflection and meditation are wonderful tools. As you get older, there’s much to reflect upon.

    • Amy Irvin

      Maybe that’s why the teen years are so hard for a lot of us

  13. Chelsea

    Quiet time. End of story. It’s the best thing ever. We have “rest” or “quiet” time every day. I only have one kid who still naps, but in a family of introverts, we all respect that block of time every afternoon to recharge!

    • Amy Irvin

      I only have one who takes naps too. And my older kids know they need to be quiet during that hour to 3 hour time span

  14. Suzan

    Creative outlets (quilting, sewing, painting) all bring relief, especially during these times, for me. Thank you for your insights and your tips!

    • Amy Irvin

      Ya welcome. Thanks for your input, Suzan

  15. Sydney Delong-Eat Simply Sweet

    My biggest struggle is finding quiet time. I need to be better at creating that time for myself!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yeah, quiet time is important!

  16. Larissa

    He can do anything!

    I’ve been practicing above mentioned things for years and from depressive suicidal turned into a happy family travel blogger!
    I can say. Love God and respect your grief and everything will be ok!

    • Amy Irvin

      Hi! Thanks for your testimony!

  17. Tiffany

    Love these suggestions! I need to get back to spending time on a talent

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for reading and commenting, Tiffany!

  18. Sandi Barrett

    We all need more joy, sometimes it is elusive.

    • Amy Irvin

      It is! But I hope my tips to pursue joy are helpful.

  19. Lisa S

    Thank you for sharing. We find joy in our life by signing and at times just sitting quietly, reflecting on the day.

    • Amy Irvin


  20. Patrice

    I love all of these suggestions! I especially love the quiet time one. That’s something we often forget to do for ourselves. Thank you for sharing!

    • Amy Irvin

      You are welcome!

  21. MissKorang

    When I make time for quiet time, meditate and/or exercise I find that my mood lifts throughout the day. Thanks for these reminders and tips. I love them

    • Amy Irvin

      I am glad I could help.Thanks for reading!

  22. Barbara

    Having your cup full of joy is essential!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yes, with all that happens in life we need the strength that comes fro having some joy!

  23. Marianne

    Really great suggestions. The one that stands out for me, is quiet time. With COVID, my kids are distance learning, so I am NEVER alone at home. Much as I love the family time, I miss the quiet time. I miss the time I had with no one home. My mental health was far better with those quiet moments. Now, I have had to find other ways to shift my thinking and bring peace, and joy, to my life.

    • Amy Irvin

      Yeah, with the kids home I can barely do anything during the day and still be exhausted <3

  24. Melissa Jones

    Great tips! I needed this reminder!

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

  25. Danielle Ardizzone

    I always start the new year intending to keep a journal, but drop the ball. Maybe this is the year!

    • Amy Irvin

      Journaling is so helpful!

  26. Maya

    Great suggestions on finding your joy!

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for reading, Maya.

  27. Tiffany

    These are some great suggestions! I think we all can find some use of one in these this year!

    • Amy Irvin

      Yes! In all the craziness, peace is still possible!

  28. Cindy Moore

    These are excellent suggestions. Joy is very important to me and doing the things that bring me joy vital.

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for reading and commenting, Cindy 🙂

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