Whether you make New Year’s resolutions or set goals to become a better person, it will take some amount of work to reach the point of success. A lot of people find it hard to make new habits and wonder why they just can’t make themselves do things they want to do. When you are used to living a certain way, it takes time to create new habits that become your new way of life.

Formerly, it was believed that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. Jamesclear.com states,

“Phillippa Lally is a health psychology researcher at University College London. In a study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, Lally and her research team decided to figure out just how long it takes to form a habit.

The study examined the habits of 96 people over a 12-week period. Each person chose one new habit for the 12 weeks and reported each day on whether or not they did the behavior and how automatic the behavior felt.

Some people chose simple habits like “drinking a bottle of water with lunch.” Others chose more difficult tasks like “running for 15 minutes before dinner.” At the end of the 12 weeks, the researchers analyzed the data to determine how long it took each person to go from starting a new behavior to automatically doing it.

The answer?

On average, it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact.”


In the first few days of starting a new routine or habit, there may be a motivation you have because it’s exciting that you are starting something new. It’s natural to lose that motivation when the newness of the routine wears off. You may be tempted to go back to your old, toxic habits. I’ve been there. I’m pretty sure if you’re reading this, you’ve been there too.

There are ways to get over the slump and keep the motivation going so that the temptation to revert to former habits wanes. Here are 6 ways to keep yourself motivated while you’re creating those new, great habits you’re forming to reach the goals you have to succeed.

Write down your goals and map out a plan to achieve them

Some people make goals or resolutions and plan on keeping them without taking much action. The act of writing your goals down will help you cement what you want to do in your brain and make it a part of you. Don’t just write down your goals in one or two lines either. Map out a plan on paper of what you are going to do every day to crush the goals and change your life.

Read your goals to yourself every day

Get in the mirror and affirm your resolutions or goals to yourself. Every day for as long as you need to. Either read through your whole plan you are intending to execute or go ahead and write out a separate statement of affirmation to yourself. Write positive statements about yourself and your life that align with who you are becoming. For example, if you have a goal to change your diet, one of your affirmations may be something like, “I eat to fuel my body and I reject unhealthy food choices that pollute my body.” Soon, these statements will become a part of you, you will start to believe these statements as truth and identify with your new positive, healthy self.

Get your life organized

Bad habits that we have sort of pile up on each other. When you have a habit for a long time, it’s apart of a routine that has other habits or characteristics of yourself that support it. For example, if you have a bad habit of sleeping late, you may have your alarm clock or phone in your bed or beside your bed. Or you may keep your bedroom door or windows closed to keep the light out. Or you may hit snooze time after time to stay in bed a few minutes later. Habit after habit pile up to support that bad habit of sleeping in later than you’d like to to have a productive morning. Organize your clothes, your paperwork and every room in your house little by little until you have your whole house in order. This will help make you a well-rounded person to support the steps you are taking to succeed in other areas of your life.


Even if your goal is not to workout, have a routine that incorporates exercise regularly to discipline your body. This will give you more energy, mental clarity, and focus. In turn, your other goals will fall into place because you have already made it a point to become healthy and discipline your body and mind.

Keep a motivated circle

We all need a good friend or two. Especially if you want to become someone you’ve never been before and do things you never have done before. Having a support circle will help keep you motivated. We usually become like those we hang out with, so make sure the immediate people you are around every day are positive people who support the success of your goals and who may even have the same goals as you. If you don’t know anyone like that, it may be beneficial for you to sign up for a class or join a support group. If you’re having a rough day, you’ll have someone to call or text who will be able to remind you of why you made your goal in the first place.

Be consistent

To reach success, consistency is key. Get up and do the same thing every day. Keep up with the plan you mapped out and soon, you will have formed a new habit or two that will just be second nature. Never give up on reaching your point of success, whatever that looks like for you. Even if you slip up or forget for a while, get back on track. You are worth it!