I would describe myself as an introvert. I’m generally quiet and it’s hard for me to make friends and get close to people. This makes me feel awkward in a lot of social situations and I used to completely dislike my personality, wishing I were different. Only like, in the past couple of years have I started to accept being this way. At a women’s Bible study not too long ago, in group discussion I called myself socially awkward and a sister in Christ told me, “No, God made you the way you are and you are fearfully and wonderfully made.” I took that to heart. It’s not like I hadn’t heard that Bible verse time and time again, but to hear it spoken to me directly like that, like my personality isn’t a mistake made a difference.
I sometimes still wish that I were more open, but sometimes it is good to be silent.
Proverbs 29:11 says: A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.
Proverbs 10:19 says: When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.
Being quiet has its advantages. It’s easy to observe other people and assess a situation when you don’t get involved right away. Finding out who and what you’re dealing with before you get involved is a good idea. Also, you can sometimes have the advantage in a conversation if you wait until after everyone has already spoken before you chime in.
On the other hand, it is important at times, to have a boldness that some people have to work at more than others. I know the Lord made me the way I am, but if I could’ve chosen my personality, I would’ve been more outgoing than timid. Nonetheless, the Lord’s grace is sufficient, for His power is made perfect in my weakness! – 2 Corinthians 12:9.
“The Holy Spirit will teach you at that time what you should say.” – Luke 12:12
This verse in the book of Luke has come alive to me. I can remember numerous times that the Lord has given me the words to minister to a person or a group of people and I couldn’t tell you how I knew just what to say. He gave the words and the boldness to speak at just the right time. I could also tell you of many times I didn’t speak up when I felt like I could’ve given someone a word of truth or encouragement. The majority of the time because I felt awkward or was doubting myself because I felt like I wouldn’t be heard.
Yes, my personality is just more quiet and shy, but “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” – 2 Timothy 1:7. Another version says, “God has not given us a spirit of timidity.”
I think every personality type has its flaws and we all need the grace and strength of God. I believe that staying silent from fear is submission to that spirit, thus, a sin. Particularly when sharing the Gospel is concerned.Us quiet and shy people have to depend on the Holy Spirit for boldness!
So is it better to be outgoing or quiet? Some may say it depends on your social circle or just what situation you may be in. I think that God just made us all the way we are and we all need to depend on Him for something or other. We are all imperfect, weak creatures susceptible to sin, dependent on Him to overcome the pull of our flesh and the world.