the quality of being modest; freedom from vanity, boastfulness, etc.
regard for decency of behavior, speech, dress, etc.
simplicity; moderation. (definition from dictionary.com)
Modesty starts in the heart. To be modest is to be humble. Modesty is holy!
I have told my testimony many times. How I grew up in a legalistic, religious church. I couldn’t wear pants, makeup, jewelry, cut or dye my hair, go to movies or parties, etc. I lived a life of restriction as a child. I didn’t have a relationship with the Lord and I believed Him to be an angry God.
Now, I look back and I think, “That church dressed holy!” The thing is, they didn’t believe Jesus is God and didn’t teach grace and love. No one discipled me. I didn’t know how great God’s love is through the example of that church. But I digress. I am not going to tell my whole testimony here.
The point is what I stated earlier. Modesty starts in the heart, with a relationship with the Lord. It is important to show modesty outwardly, but if you don’t know Jesus, the way you dress is not going to get you to heaven! Living modestly starts with the blood of Jesus applied to your soul once you repent of your sins and trust in Jesus for your salvation. Once you confess with your mouth and believe in your heart that Jesus is Lord, then you are made righteous!
Once you have a relationship with the Lord and begin to spend time in the Word of God, learning the scriptures you will see that modesty is vital. Some Christians don’t dress modestly because they don’t see any good example from other Christians. I didn’t dress modestly as a Christian for a while. I went to church with women who wore tights and tight slacks, showed breasts, and wore short dresses. I knew that modesty is vital, but didn’t have a clear example of what dressing modestly looked like. Also, growing up in the legalistic church I did, I thought that wearing skirts and dresses was religious.
Before I started wearing dresses and skirts, covering my whole body, the Lord worked on the pride in my heart. Pride is not modest. Modesty embodies humility and holiness. I thought too much about what I felt, what I wanted, the way I wanted to dress: to be free to wear what I wanted now that I know grace. I was mistaken. Freedom in Christ is not about being able to do what you want to do. Modesty is honoring the Lord in the way you speak, behave, and dress! If you love Him, you will be glad to be modest!
I have always attended churches that women dress immodestly. I didn’t see anything wrong with it. I believed they were modest. They were my examples! But the Lord brought me into a ministry of repentance and holiness that is preparing the way for the Messiah to come. The women dress holy, in dresses down to the floor, covering their whole bodies. (See this blog post!) I followed them for several years before I began to dress like this. I’m not sure why it took so long for me to follow their way of dress. But I am glad I am dressing modestly now.
I will never condemn another woman for dressing immodestly, but I will be happy to show her the way! If you are not following the ministry of repentance and holiness, you should be. This is the voice of God right now, through His prophet, Dr. David Owuor. (Please search him on YouTube!)
I, in no way, am writing this post to assert that I am better than anyone. As I said, it took me a while to adopt modest dressing. I want to tell you what I have learned. Immodest dressing is sexual sin. I used to think that if a man is tempted by a woman’s way of dressing, that’s his fault. No! A woman is accountable for tempting her brother to sin. I am speaking to women, but men are to live modestly as well. A woman’s curves, legs, and skin should only be shown to her husband.
So many men want to dress flashy and show off their bodies as well. A godly man needs to teach a man how to dress.
As the church, we are still supposed to walk in holiness and stay separate from the ways of the world! Modesty, in behavior and dress, is so important. We will not win others to salvation by looking like them! An unbeliever should see us and want to know what is different about us. But if we speak like them, treat others like they do, and dress as they do, we will not win them over to salvation through Christ and holiness.
I am speaking the truth in love. I am sharing this post with you, praying that you will seek the Lord and find Him. Begin to walk in modesty, humility, and holiness! I highly recommend following the example of the men and women in the Repentance and Holiness ministry. God bless you.
If you have any questions after reading this, about how to dress modestly you can email me at email@example.com.
Some scriptures about modesty:
Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire. – 1 Timothy 2:9
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. – 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. – 1 Peter 3:3-4
“A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God. – Deuteronomy 22:5
I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. – Romans 12:1