How To Return To Your First Love

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Jesus said to the church of Ephesus in the book of Revelation:
“I know your deeds, your hard work and your perseverance. I know that you cannot tolerate wicked people, that you have tested those who claim to be apostles but are not, and have found them false. You have persevered and have endured hardships for my name, and have not grown weary.
 Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first. Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. If you do not repent, I will come to you and remove your lamp stand from its place.” Rev. 2:2-5
“You have forsaken your first love.”
I remember how in love I was with Jesus when I first accepted Him into my life. I was excited every day to get up and live life as a new creation! I’d read my Bible for hours. I was always thinking of things I could do to serve in new ways; teaching Sunday school, making fliers, then going out and evangelizing, making prayer lists and praying for everyone I could think of. I was lit up like a match, spiritually. Just wanting to please Jesus was my whole goal. Now, I am more spiritually mature, but I am seeking that fire of my first love.
When Jesus spoke to the church in Ephesus, he acknowledged that they did good deeds; but He also said they needed to repent. That they had forsaken the love they had at first. “Repent and do the things you did at first.” (Verse 5).
Well, my life is different now than when I first accepted Christ. I have different responsibilities. If it’s been a while since you accepted Christ, I’m sure your responsibilities have changed too. So how do we return to our first love and put Jesus first in this season of life?
Seek Him with your whole heart.
Jeremiah 29:13 says “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” So really make the effort to find that first love with the Lord again!
Make sure you are spending quality time with the Lord every day. At least 20 to 30 minutes of the Word and prayer. If you have a husband and 3 little ones running around at home, this may be a challenge. But make it a priority! Carve out time to spend with The One you love. Get up earlier. Or go to bed later. Or make the kids go have quiet time while you get your much needed time with the Lord.
Join a new Bible Study group or start a Bible Study by yourself.
This will get you back in the Word in a targeted way and help you to really go deep in an organized way. Choose a topic that you need. Something you are struggling with or something you need to apply to your life. I started the study, Having A Mary Spirit by Joanna Weaver.
I’m reading the book, and there is a study guide and DVDs to go with it. I haven’t done a Bible study like this in a while and it’s really getting into my soul. If you’re interested:
The book is available here:
And the study guide and DVDs are available here:
Get a new Bible!
This can help make spending time in the Word new and exciting because you’re exploring new pages. Especially if you choose a Bible with devotions in it.
Spend time around people who are on fire for the Lord.
Joining a Bible study can help, like I mentioned before. Or link up with people you know who love the Lord and haven’t spent time with in a while. Pray for the Lord to bring people who really love him into your life.
Start doing some of the things you used to do when you were first saved.
Sit down and remember some of the things you used to do, like intentionally doing something kind for someone who feels left out or going out and evangelizing again, if you haven’t in a while. Also, think of some new things you can do to please the Lord.
Teach your kids to love Jesus.
Of course, this is if you have kids. When I first accepted Christ, I didn’t have kids yet. Now I have three, so a huge part of my devotion to the Lord is to teach my little ones The Way. So I pray with them, read the Bible with them, and I do my best to live a life pleasing to the Lord in front of them.
If you don’t have kids, find someone else to disciple!
Find someone at your church who needs help in their walk with Christ and teach them. Or a neighbor or family member.
Make time to worship and thank the Lord regularly.
Find some good worship music. Make a playlist or find an album you love. Put it on every day (or as often as you can) and praise the Lord. Sing! Say thank you Jesus! Thank Him for who He is and all of the ways He has blessed you!
Tell your testimony.
Find someone to tell your testimony to. It can be one person or a group. Or just write it down! To reflect on and thank the Lord for where He brought you from.
These are some good ways to return to your first love and fall in love with Jesus again. If you have any suggestions of how to get your fire for Jesus back, leave them in the comment section below!



  1. Kyndall Bennett

    It’s wonderful to be able to continuously connect with a peaceful source, especially when times are difficult. ❤

    • Amy Irvin

      Yes! Being able to go to our creator in prayer is a blessing

  2. Sandi

    A Bible study group is a great way to explore the good book.

    • Amy Irvin

      Yes, I love good Bible study groups

  3. Leigh Ann

    Our faith is such an individual thing. It’s good to find what brings you peace. 💕

    • Amy Irvin


  4. Dawnmarie @ EnjoyingtheDays

    There is so much that I like about this article, including the reminders that He is out greatest gift and should be our greatest joy. ❤️

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks for reading!

  5. Tifffany

    Great tips to reconnect!

    • Amy Irvin


  6. Candy Keefer

    Great reminders of important it is to make time for our creator. You truly glorify the Lord with your blog. Keep up the amazing work!

    • Amy Irvin

      Thanks so much. God bless you!!

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