Teaching My Kids To Be Pure

The way of Holiness is a pure way of life. Purity of heart and physical and sexual purity go hand in hand. I believe that the best way to establish purity in the heart of a child early on is to teach them to love Jesus. He said, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” – Matthew 5:8. Right now, my bio kids (6 and 3) are too young to teach about sexual purity, in depth. I do believe it starts young, though. For example, I wouldn’t sit down with my six year old son and have a sex talk. But I do tell him what his private parts are and that no one should be allowed to touch them. I do my best to establish trust with my little ones, letting them know that mommy loves them and that they can come and tell me anything. Another aspect of purity that I teach my kids is being kind to others and doing your best to treat people the way that you want to be treated. I had a talk with my 9 year old step daughter recently. I bad mouthed someone in front of her, and the Holy Spirit convicted me about it. I felt totally awful and repented to the Lord. Later, I went to my step daughter and I told her that what I said was wrong and that it is wrong to talk bad about people behind their backs. She said, “Well, Amy. It’s okay. No one is perfect.” I responded by letting her know that I know that, but you should still do your best to do right. Small expressions of integrity and purity of heart in front of your kids can make lasting impacts on them for life. Consistently living a life of purity in front of them and covering them in prayer can form them into healthy young people who have lifelong relationships with Jesus. Of course, everyone has their own free will and many teenagers rebel against their parents’ teachings, experimenting with things they’ve always been told they shouldn’t do. The Bible says, “Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old, they will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6. A lot of kids grow up going to church 2, 3 or 4 times a week and watching their parents serve in the church all their lives. Some are turned off by this. A big reason being, there was no love shown. Religious teaching without love is really a burn. “The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law.” – 1 Corinthians 15:56. Religious rules and regulations without teaching the true nature of God, namely His love; can turn anyone against the church for a long time. Even the rest of their lives. I’ve seen it in my own family. Don’t get me wrong. Jesus is relentless in His love for each of us, and will pursue us ’til the day we die. The point I want to make here is that the earlier a child’s heart is turned toward Him, the better chance they have at not only a good life, but eternal salvation! Another thing I do my best to be mindful of as a parent is what I allow my kids to see with their eyes. Keeping them pure and away from ungodly influence as long as possible is my goal. Again, it starts with the life I live in front of them. Also, what I allow them to see on television, YouTube and video games. One day, I was on the phone and my son was playing a video game in front of me. I wasn’t paying attention to what he was playing until I heard him laughing. So I looked at the screen and freaked out. The game he was playing had a woman in a club giving a man a lap dance! When he saw me freak out about it and tell him he couldn’t play it anymore, he burst out crying. So I immediately calmed down and told him he wasn’t in trouble. I asked him if he’d ever seen the naked lady on the game before and he told me no. Then I went to my husband and told him what I saw our son playing. I guess when he got the game system, that game was built into the system. My husband went and talked to him, telling him Jesus doesn’t like the game. Then he deleted it. My son is innocent and didn’t know why the woman on the game was dancing for the guy, but if we had continued to let him play it, he would’ve become corrupted by it. As my kids get older and grow into preteens, then subsequently teenagers with budding hormones, I will continue to pray about how to teach them sexual purity and the importance of staying pure before the Lord. I know all too well, the effects of being sexually active young and the impact a sexually impure life has on an individual. Because I love them so much, I want better for them. Most importantly, I know, and am learning more of the love of the Lord. I want my little ones to know Him for themselves.

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